Curious about how to have an anal orgasm? Well, you’re in for a treat! Rachel Sommer, Ph.D., our clinical sexologist and sex toy tester, will address everything from how to have an anal climax to the best techniques to try! Think of it as your personal roadmap to exploring a less-traveled but oh-so-rewarding path to pleasure. Let’s find what her recommendations are:

What Are Anal Orgasms?

An anal orgasm is triggered by anal stimulation. It can happen during penetrative anal sex, fingering, or ass licking/eating. In the anus area, you’ve got the pudendal nerve and these sensitive buddies hold the key to an intense orgasm.

For individuals with a prostate, located between the bladder and the penis, there’s an additional aspect to explore. Stimulating the prostate can significantly enhance the experience enabling you to reach anal orgasm more intensely than ever. The trick is to aim the stimulant – whether it’s a finger, dildo, or something else – upward, towards the belly button. This technique helps in reaching the prostate and stimulating those shared nerves could lead to an easier anal orgasm.

What Does An Anal Orgasm Feel Like?

Some describe anal orgasms as a pulse of pleasure going through the entire body like a wave, while others say it’s a pleasurable feeling around the anus. However, everybody agrees it feels great, unlike anything else.

Some girls can get intense anal orgasm contractions with as little as light touching or with some sex toys. Others need to be penetrated with a penis or a dildo. There are many ways to get there, and some methods are more effective than others.

Read this guide if you want to know more about what anal sex feels like.

How to Achieve An Orgasm From Anal Sex

It takes time and practice to enjoy anal penetration and even more so to achieve an anal sex. To help you on your journey, here are some practical first steps to get that elusive anal big O:

1. Start With Fingers

Kick things off with a solid wash – keeping things feeling fresh. You can also take a hot bath which can help loosen tight muscles around the anus while simultaneously giving other erogenous zones some rub-a-dub.

It also helps if you are aroused. I recommend reading some erotic literature, thinking about your favorite sexual fantasy, or watching porn. Anything goes!

Now for the main act, think of your anus as a timid yet curious creature, eager to explore but needing a gentle introduction. This is where your fingers come in – like a friendly handshake to an unfamiliar neighbor. Take deep breaths and start with a lubed-up index finger, letting your body get accustomed to the new sensation.

Gradually, as comfort builds, you can escalate to bigger challenges, like more fingers, butt plugs, or anal beads. We talk more about that below. But patience is key here – your body will let you know when it’s ready to level up. Feel how your body responds, consciously relax your anal sphincter muscles and ignore any unnecessary fuss about it being “forbidden” or “dirty.

When you think you are ready for bigger things, move on to step number 2.

2. Upgrade to Larger Toys

After getting comfortable with a lubed finger, you may be ready for a bit more adventure. Consider trying out a slim butt plug or some anal beads, or any toy you are comfortable with. Just go with what feels good for you, and take it easy, step by step. Try out various anal dildo positions and angles to find what works best. There’s no rush since your anal muscles need more time to get accustomed compared to your vagina.

If you have a partner, please ensure they trim their fingernails and have washed their hands. Using a condom or a dental dam (for rimming) can also help to ensure things stay hygienic and safe.

Surprisingly, some say that given the close proximity of the anus to the front wall of the vagina, engaging in anal penetration can somehow indirectly be felt on the A-spot [1]. The A-spot (AKA anterior fornix) is located deep inside the vaginal wall, hanging out close to the cervix. If you’re up for it, stimulating this area can bring some extra pleasure into the mix.

Note: The G-spot and A-spot, which are both located on the front wall of the vagina are exclusive to our vulva owners. So ladies out there who want to try a different type of orgasm, we also have a guide on how to have a G-spot orgasm right here.

Of course, everyone is different. Getting used to anal penetration is a journey that doesn’t happen overnight—it can take weeks or even months for some.

3. Try Different Techniques

There’s a unique comfort in starting with what you know you like. If anal vibrators are your thing, integrate them into your anal adventures. It’s like adding a familiar ingredient to a new recipe, giving it a twist of flavor that you already love. Or you can shake things up a bit by mixing anal play into penetrative sex or oral sex.

For those who enjoy a dash of kink, like bondage or BDSM, incorporating these elements can add an exciting dimension to anal play. It’s like adding a secret sauce to an already delicious meal – it just makes everything more exciting and flavorful. The key is to blend the new with the old, creating a seamless and enjoyable anal experience.

When it comes to anal masturbation techniques, you can try a “come hither” motion or apply light pressure with your finger. There are even some toys with this function like Lelo Hugo Wave or Lovense Ridge. You can also try a circular motion. If you want the technique your partner like, keep on going until they reach an anal orgasm.

If you still can’t achieve an anal orgasm, I recommend adding other stimulation types to the mix. You can stimulate your clitoris with an external vibrator (We-Vibe Touch X is a solid choice) or your partner’s tongue. Others like their G-spot stimulated (you can try LELO Soraya Wave) or having other erogenous zones stimulated (nipples, penis, inner thighs, perineum, etc).

4. Lube, Lube, Lube

The role of lube in anal intercourse cannot be overstated. Unlike the vagina, your anus cannot self-lubricate. Without it, the experience can be less than pleasant and might cause you small tears. Begin by generously applying lube around the anal opening. Make sure to add more to your finger, penis, or dildo as needed, and reapply regularly for a smoother experience.

Choose your anal lube wisely. Silicone-based lubes are like marathon runners – durable and long-lasting, but not compatible with silicone toys. Water-based lubes are like sprinters – quick and easy to wash off but not as enduring. Oil-based options are rebels – great in some situations but not with latex condoms. And remember, numbing lubes are like noise-canceling headphones at a concert – they might block out discomfort, but they also mute the pleasure.

What Techniques To Try To Have An Anal Orgasm?

Anal Sex Positions

Exploring anal sex positions can greatly enhance the experience and likelihood of achieving an anal orgasm. Each position offers a unique approach: “Lap Dance” allows the receiving partner to control depth and pace while facing away; “Lying Doggy” is comfortable and ideal for beginners, this position will help the giving partner a range of shallow and deep penetration; “Backdoor Missionary” adds a twist to the conventional missionary. For deeper intimacy, feel free to mix it up by bringing one leg up.

Here’s the full list of anal sex positions you can try.

Using An Anal Vibrator

Diving into the world of anal orgasms with a vibrator is like discovering a new favorite playlist. First up, pick a sex toy that feels right for you preferably one that has a flared base. Set the scene to get comfy, maybe with some chill tunes or low lighting. Don’t skimp on the lube – it’s the magic ingredient that makes the sex better.

Start by teasing around the anus, getting used to the buzz. It’s like savoring the first sip of your favorite drink. Then, gradually go deeper, moving with what feels good. Play around with the sex toy’s settings to find your groove. Remember, it’s all about going with the flow and finding what makes you tick. Keep it relaxed, exploratory, and, most importantly, fun.

For the full guide, check our process on how to have an anal orgasm using a vibrator.

Can Men Have Anal Orgasm?

Yes, anal orgasms are not just for cisgender women. The mechanics are pretty similar, but for penis owners, there’s a special player in the game: the P-spot, often dubbed the male G-spot thus calling this type of climax- prostate orgasm [2]. So, where’s this P-spot hiding? Picture a walnut-sized gland tucked away about two inches inside the anus. When this little treasure is stimulated, say through the magic touch of a finger, a prostate massager, or even a strap-on dildo, it gets busy. It starts producing fluid that joins the semen party, and in the process, can trigger some pretty mind-blowing anal orgasms for guys.

Those who’ve hit the prostate jackpot describe the experience as next-level intense. It’s like a wave of pleasure that washes over the entire body, making typical orgasms seem like a drop in the ocean. And get this, the semen produced during a prostate orgasm is usually more on the watery side.

But wait, there’s more! Guys are used to the whole one-and-done deal, thanks to the infamous refractory period – that annoying wait time between erections. But, hold onto your hats: a prostate-induced orgasm can slash this waiting time, making it easier to go for round two (or three, or more) in quicker succession. You can incorporate some prostate massagers to achieve this big O faster.

Thanks for reading our guide on how to have an anal orgasm!

Rachel

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